Prayers to everyone in Sandy Hook

I tend to write about the goodness in life. I try to put on paper what I feel and how I try to live my life. I always look at the bright side of situations and how we overcome challenges. This is why I enjoy conveying my thoughts to you; the readers. Today I am having a difficult time writing of the good surrounding me because I feel an emptiness from the horrific actions of just one man. A man that shot his way into an elementary school and murdered innocent people and children. My faith says that anyone who takes the innocence or hurts a child will be condemned for all eternity but, this doesn’t seem to calm my initial feelings of sadness, anger, and confusion. We are all asking why and how this can happen to the most innocent in our society? We want to know what is going on with this world. Some are saying the Mayan apocalypse is on the way while others are saying that evil has visited this small town of Sandy Hook, CT. I don’t believe either of those scenario’s. I think that a mentally ill or sick individual has visited that town and that we need to focus on learning from the horrible situation. We need to hug the ones we love everyday and be thankful for every moment that we have on earth. We need to listen to our family and friends and pay attention to what is going on in their hearts.


We will never be able to prevent chaos and evil but we can fight it with the most powerful weapon known to all mankind; Love. I have never known Love to create such sadness or anger that evil creates. I have never seen Love be jealous or cheap. Love is unconditional and fair. It is something that these innocent children had stolen from them and their families. I am certain that with this very same Love we will see Strength flourish. You see, Love and Strength go hand and hand. We need to be strong and have faith that there is much more good than evil in this world and we need to stand united and always be good to those that surround us. When we do this we will help to prevent these actions from happening again.

My prayers and thoughts go out to everyone who is mourning and may God bless us all.

Bullies...

I have found that when people enjoy picking on others it's simply because they have low self esteem. They are picking constantly to feel better about themselves and their own shortcomings. When I was a kid my Dad would say "he or she does it because he or she is jeolous, don't let it bother you." We all know someone like this; they're usually the bullies. Someone who is confident and self loving will never have to raise his or her voice, let alone a fist. Knowing this makes it easier to forgive someone who has wronged us and helps us to understand why a person acts in such a negative way. Don't just walk away from the negativity, but run! My whole point here is that negativity is contagous, just as happiness is. When someone is acting mean spirited to you or being a bully it comes from within. Be there for your family and friends but don't feed the negative vibes, show your love by being happy from within and maybe that smile or hug will help the negative thinking persons outlook for the better!     (I posted this back in 2009 and it hit home to me today, so why not re-post it again!) 

Bullies! Why?

I was just at one of my friends’ blogs reading her story about 'bullies' and could not help but get a little angry! She wrote about the bullies in school and how it affects the kid getting bullied. It brought back fond memories from my school days. I was lucky to have a few older brothers who were much bigger than me, so I didn't have a problem with getting bullied, plus I like to think that I was just so easy going that no one wanted to bother me (no, I think it was my brothers). I remember sticking up and even getting into fights trying to help classmates who were getting bullied. My Dad always used to say that "if someone is picking on you they are just jealous” and it stuck with me! I truly believe that we treat others how we feel about ourselves. As kids (and even as adults) if we feel insecure or afraid we will lash out on others whom we feel are weaker! This is a sad thought, but one that we all must think about. We need to teach kids about love, respect, and friendship by showing it in our actions, teaching it in daily habits, and helping others who may be different from us. I never really cared about being “cool” or “popular” because I was lucky enough to have parents who taught me that quality doesn’t come in quantity! We are blessed to have a few true friends in this life, we are lucky to have the opportunity to teach by example, and we are required to treat each other with respect! It is our duty to be vigilant when it comes to stopping useless bullying that will scar for a lifetime. The best way to stop this behavior is to sit down and talk to kids about this issue before it becomes a problem. We must remember that we all strive for attention from one another, most times if we don’t get it we will act up in order to get attention, because bad attention is better than no attention at all (or so we think). Think about how many times while growing up that we would not bother our Moms for hours on end, BUT once she answered the phone we would start screaming or asking her questions while she was trying to have a conversation with someone on the other end; this was to get her attention because all of a sudden it wasn’t focused on us! There are to many suicides, drug addictions, alcohol abuses, and depressed people in our own towns, let alone the world that happens because of low self esteem, feeling alone, or even unacceptable. We can all make a difference just by teaching more compassion to everyone who is around us and even complementing someone when they go the extra mile for someone who may have needed that extra smile or helping hand. Try to make it a habit to focus on the good and don’t assume that your kids, family, or friends know that you love them unconditionally; remind them with a few extra hugs, a smile, and maybe even say it! “I Love You!”